Halloween costumes aren't just for kids. Follow these 5 tips and use Halloween role play to spice up the bedroom!
According to the History Channel, Halloween was the Celtic celebration of the last day of their summer and harvest before the long, cold winter. They would light bonfires and wear costumes to ward off ghosts. Borrowing from the Irish and English, Americans have put their own spin on this fun holiday by going house to house asking for food or money, this practice eventually becoming today's "trick or treat" tradition.
What better time to add new tricks to the bedroom than Halloween? Dressing up increases dopamine levels in the brain, elevating arousal and increasing confidence. Don't worry if role play is new to you! Blame the full moon and follow these 5 tips!
Understand Each Other's Fantasies
The first step is to make sure both of you are on the same page. The last thing you want is for your partner to bring circus elephants (unless you're into that!) into your bedroom. Talk about it. Use email, text, or face to face. It's important to have these conversations OUTSIDE of the bedroom and sex play in a neutral setting that is non threatening.
This is also a good time to set your limits and boundaries. Your partner's fantasy may really be about circus elephants, but that doesn't mean yours is. It's important to talk about what you're OK and not OK with. Listen to your partner and keep these conversations judgement free!
Set The Stage
I love foreplay and nothing is better than a slow build up of anticipation. Try sending sexy text messages or pictures throughout the day to each other to start things simmering. This helps both of you start to get into character and the expectation of what is in store will amp up excitement.
Now is a good time to start thinking about your character, what you'll wear and how you'll act. This doesn't need to be a rehearsal, but it's easier to role play when you've already thought about it.
Dress The Part
Mr. Cheeky (and most men) are visual creatures and the idea of different and new personas is very exciting. Get dressed up in the role and try to be all in. If this stuff makes you nervous, that's ok. You can start small with a few pieces and work your way up. Think about this like a movie role. Get into the character. I like to imagine what this person's life is like whether i'm a naughty cop, sexy nurse or innocent school girl. For women, it is just as much, if not more, about the mental fantasy.
We women like to self criticize. We worry that our stomach is too big or that our stretch marks are too prominent. This is the perfect time to ditch
those insecurities and embrace the character and the moment. Men love women's bodies! Your man loves YOUR body. The best part is that confidence also is attractive.
Don't forget to compliment each other and support each other. When you do this, it encourages future behavior that is favorable to both of you.
Talk About It
One of the best parts of sexual adventure is reliving it with Mr. Cheeky later. It could be the next day or a year later, just talking about the adventures we've had turns us on. Talk to your partner about what you liked, what you didn't like. This often leads to more sex and for us, it prompts us to plan our next adventure!
I'd love to hear about what you dressed up like and how it went! Comment below!